how do you create community?

i do not know

a hundred ways

a thousand ways

but

how do you kill community?

I can tell you one

sure to do the job.

be self-sufficient.

always have enough

always have it together

always be a giver

always have all the tools you need

never need to borrow a sewing needle

never need a cup of sugar

never tell anyone you're breaking down

never need anyone.

your pride

your insistence on competency

your unwillingness to be a burden

on us

when it is the proper time for you to collapse

may be the end of us all.

knowing what time it truly is

or knowing how to know the time at all

you

needing our help

being unable to continue without it

you

not knowing 

how to do everything

creates the occasion

for the village to reconstitute itself

and know itself again

--Tad Hargrave